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Most fairy tales end with ‘happily ever after’ – but a wedding is just the first step, the beginning. It is after the wedding that a couple’s real life together begins. The wedding is a one-day wonderful affair to announce to the world that now, with the weddings rings on their fingers, the couple is getting into marriage – and this is a whole new post-wedding world.

The world of marriage is a world that most couples are unprepared for and it’s different for each one. It does not come with a formula whereby one can push a button or call in a mechanic and put things right. There are no fixed rules – you play each day as it comes.

How then does one write in the whole issue of success into a marriage? Well, there is no surefire way one can do that. However, as no doubt most of our grandmothers and the old school will tell us, marriage can be a lot easier to make a success of if we added one ingredient to the recipe – acceptance.

Look at some of the successful marriages around you and this is what you will find is a staple in all of those marriages. The wedding day and everything that leads up to it comes with a lot of expectations. You’re young, in love and it is but normal to expect to be happy. Once the wedding and the honeymoon are over, it would really be a lot easier and happier for all if those expectations were changed to acceptance.

Most of us are quite adept at this by the way. Look at the way we are with friends. We accept them, no matter what. Why then can’t we accept a husband or a wife? Once this secret ingredient is a part of your daily married life, things become so much simpler. You stop wasting your efforts trying to change the other person, you stop finding fault, you love them just the way they are. Once you accept, you get closer and there’s no drawing away from each other. Once you accept, you give more freely and that just sets off a chain reaction of more giving from either side. Once you accept, it isn’t only your marriage that will start to feel the effects – you’ll find the love spilling over to all around you. Take a look at the couples that have a happy married life and you’ll see the truth of what we’re saying. Acceptance just makes you a better person in every way.

Does that sound easy? It isn’t. However, if you start off your marriage the way you want it to go – forever and a day – acceptance just gets to be a habit. It’s a habit that can bring you the love of a lifetime – a love that grows and never wanes. It’s well worth trying out, wouldn’t you say?